It’s me. I’m a Black girl who done searched for love and detoured at self-destruction. A few times. I didn’t expect to reflect on that this holiday season but the universe has a way of doing what it wants to do. Because the universe ain’t shit. So Christmas rolled around and I got a gift from a friend. Ok. Situationship buddy I got comfortable with for a year and some change. Then he decided new year, new him. We’ll come back to why that’s important. Anyway, the gift I got was th[...]
“I mean things have happened but I’m ok. They didn’t impact me that bad.” Gemini therapist looked like I had gotten on her last gaht damn nerve. The reserve nerve. Next thing I know I’m sitting on a kiddie chair in a room full of art supplies. She picked up a marker and started writing on the whiteboard wall. “Birth.” “Nah I don’t want to play this game. I know where this shit going.” “Tell me about the things that happened to you. Start at the beginning. Yo[...]
Word on the street is that (cishet) men want in on #HotGirlSummer. And even though the term is gender neutral, they don’t want to participate the way you might think. Instead, they’ve made it clear that they really shoulda just sat there and ate they food. Men like Pharrell Williams. Like dude in this clip: https://instagram.com/p/B0gzyyCHYNM/ Yeah, it’s all just “jokes.” But in real life we got a whole grown ass man (and his interweb friends) concerning himself with things outs[...]
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“I didn’t do it because my feet itch.” That’s how my uncle Donald used to tell us he had a logical reason for doing something. The exchange usually began with my aunt Ernestine saying, “Well Donald why did you do that?” And he’d respond that he didn’t do it because his feet itched. It stuck. My cousins and I say it to each other. And I’ve even found myself in the middle of a work meeting responding that I didn’t do a thing because my feet itched. Try explaining that t[...]