It’s me. I’m a Black girl who done searched for love and detoured at self-destruction. A few times. I didn’t expect to reflect on that this holiday season but the universe has a way of doing what it wants to do. Because the universe ain’t shit.
So Christmas rolled around and I got a gift from a friend. Ok. Situationship buddy I got comfortable with for a year and some....read more
On Black Girls Who Search for Love and Detour at Self-Destruction: Life Lessons From Queenie
“I mean things have happened but I’m ok. They didn’t impact me that bad.”
Gemini therapist looked like I had gotten on her last gaht damn nerve. The reserve nerve. Next thing I know I’m sitting on a kiddie chair in a room full of art supplies. She picked up a marker and started writing on the whiteboard wall.
“Nah I don’t want to play this game. I know....read more
Facing Trauma Head On. Let's Go.
Not long ago I described what I wanted in love. Not unlike Queen & Slim both did in the film. Here is what I said…
I want love I just call “Love” because no other name fits.
I want Love to reach for my hand while driving.
I want to lay my head in Love’s lap while Love watches something I don’t even want to see but will watch just to....read more
Where is the Love? On Queen & Slim and Black Girls Deserving Better
I've been blogging for 12 years.
I started with a mission of impacting one woman.
I've recently come to understand that the one woman I need to impact right now is me.
So I'm taking a self-care break.
Removing obligations I've placed on myself to write, blog, vlog publicly.
Going back to the thing that saved my 6 year-old life.
Writing for me.
Writing for survival.....read more
Goodnight: This Black Girl is Taking a Rest
Word on the street is that (cishet) men want in on #HotGirlSummer. And even though the term is gender neutral, they don’t want to participate the way you might think. Instead, they’ve made it clear that they really shoulda just sat there and ate they food. Men like Pharrell Williams. Like dude in this clip:
Yeah, it’s all just “jokes.” But in real life we got a whole grown ass....read more
I’m Here for all the Hot Girl Summers. The Megan Thee, Hennessy and Plan B Summers.
Bubble Gum and Duct Tape: Holding This Heart Together
Something wasn’t right but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Not even after I found myself curled into a ball on a bed I’d barely left for 4 days, uncontrollably crying after not eating a full meal for two weeks and alternating between insomnia and sleeping for 12 straight hours. I didn’t know what was wrong but knew something wasn’t right.
I’mma back up. Two weeks before I found myself....read more
Trust Your Gut Even If You Can't Trust Your Mind: My Experience With An Antidepressant