Something wasn’t right but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Not even after I found myself curled into a ball on a bed I’d barely left for 4 days, uncontrollably crying after not eating a full meal for two weeks and alternating between insomnia and sleeping for 12 straight hours. I didn’t know what was wrong but knew something wasn’t right. I’mma back up. Two weeks before I found myself....read more

Trust Your Gut Even If You Can't Trust Your Mind: My Experience With An Antidepressant

“I didn’t do it because my feet itch.” That’s how my uncle Donald used to tell us he had a logical reason for doing something. The exchange usually began with my aunt Ernestine saying, “Well Donald why did you do that?” And he’d respond that he didn’t do it because his feet itched. It stuck. My cousins and I say it to each other. And I’ve even found myself in....read more

Abortion Should Be Free, Safe and On Demand, Even if You Want One Just Because Your Feet Itch

First of all, spoilers. Because this is a review of sorts. Where I’m talking about the movie. So spoilers. Get out now if you don't want to know what happens. Third of all, I ain’t finna fight with none of the Marvel comic purists about this. Just know I said what I said. For real though, spoilers without warning are horrible and people who act like everybody should have seen....read more

My Feminism Black, My Superheroes Too: On Avengers Endgame and the End of an Era

As teased in the promo, Mary Jane gets married in the finale. And since having a baby and getting married were the things she has wanted to do the whole show, this is a happy ending for her. Now I’d have made a different decision and probably *not* have married the man who left me twice, and one of those times I was pregnant. But do you sis. Quite frankly,....read more

Self-Sacrifice Ain't Your Ministry Sis: Life Lessons on the Being Mary Jane Finale

I came to the GoT party late. And I have paid dearly for it. First of all, I started watching for a man. I had zero interest in the show but I had more than zero interest in hanging out with said man. And he was watching the GoT season premiere. So I watched the first episode just so I would be able to put names to faces when I....read more

The Real Reason It's Too Late to Start Watching Game Of Thrones

“My momma said to ask you if she can have some sugar?” And then I’d stand there with my cup in hand and wait for my auntie Thomasine to tilt her head and gaze at me like I was the reason my momma didn’t have the good sense to plan ahead to have sugar for whatever she needed it for. I’d wait, respectfully of course. And know that no matter how....read more

Cup of Sugar, Cup of Lessons, Cup of Love

But for the ancestors looking out for me, I’d probably have a few restraining orders filed against me too. All of them would have been filed by the man who beat me for 6 years. There is the time I cut up his clothes. The time I fought a woman he was cheating on me with (he beat me up in response. I was pregnant.) That’s the thing about abuse.....read more

But For the Ancestors, I'd Probably Have a Restraining Order Too