I've been blogging for 12 years. I started with a mission of impacting one woman. Just one. I've recently come to understand that the one woman I need to impact right now is me. So I'm taking a self-care break. Removing obligations I've placed on myself to write, blog, vlog publicly. Going back to the thing that saved my 6 year-old life. Writing for me. Just me. Writing for survival.....read more

Goodnight: This Black Girl is Taking a Rest

Word on the street is that (cishet) men want in on #HotGirlSummer. And even though the term is gender neutral, they don’t want to participate the way you might think. Instead, they’ve made it clear that they really shoulda just sat there and ate they food. Men like Pharrell Williams. Like dude in this clip: https://instagram.com/p/B0gzyyCHYNM/ Yeah, it’s all just “jokes.” But in real life we got a whole grown ass....read more

I’m Here for all the Hot Girl Summers. The Megan Thee, Hennessy and Plan B Summers.

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Bubble Gum and Duct Tape: Holding This Heart Together

Something wasn’t right but I couldn’t put my finger on it. Not even after I found myself curled into a ball on a bed I’d barely left for 4 days, uncontrollably crying after not eating a full meal for two weeks and alternating between insomnia and sleeping for 12 straight hours. I didn’t know what was wrong but knew something wasn’t right. I’mma back up. Two weeks before I found myself....read more

Trust Your Gut Even If You Can't Trust Your Mind: My Experience With An Antidepressant

“I didn’t do it because my feet itch.” That’s how my uncle Donald used to tell us he had a logical reason for doing something. The exchange usually began with my aunt Ernestine saying, “Well Donald why did you do that?” And he’d respond that he didn’t do it because his feet itched. It stuck. My cousins and I say it to each other. And I’ve even found myself in....read more

Abortion Should Be Free, Safe and On Demand, Even if You Want One Just Because Your Feet Itch

First of all, spoilers. Because this is a review of sorts. Where I’m talking about the movie. So spoilers. Get out now if you don't want to know what happens. Third of all, I ain’t finna fight with none of the Marvel comic purists about this. Just know I said what I said. For real though, spoilers without warning are horrible and people who act like everybody should have seen....read more

My Feminism Black, My Superheroes Too: On Avengers Endgame and the End of an Era

As teased in the promo, Mary Jane gets married in the finale. And since having a baby and getting married were the things she has wanted to do the whole show, this is a happy ending for her. Now I’d have made a different decision and probably *not* have married the man who left me twice, and one of those times I was pregnant. But do you sis. Quite frankly,....read more

Self-Sacrifice Ain't Your Ministry Sis: Life Lessons on the Being Mary Jane Finale