Rewind “You bet not come home without a pack of cigarettes.” I was about 14 when my aunt uttered those words as I left the family compound on the Southside of Chicago. Admittedly, I didn’t give much thought to what she said at that moment. It later dawned on me that she was essentially saying, “If you’re leaving this house to spend time with a man (boy), then you better not come home empty handed.” Wait, what? I know she didn’t mean that I should ask a guy to do something for me[...]