But for the ancestors looking out for me, I’d probably have a few restraining orders filed against me too. All of them would have been filed by the man who beat me for 6 years. There is the time I cut up his clothes. The time I fought a woman he was cheating on me with (he beat me up in response. I was pregnant.) That’s the thing about abuse. Be it sexual assault or domestic violence, it changes you in ways you never imagined. Then one day you’re calmly lying beside him describing in detai[...]
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” ~Audre Lorde After the premiere of Surviving R. Kelly, some folks are asking how R. Kelly has been allowed to terrorize Black girls and women for decades. You only have to look at the video of Yasmine James to know exactly how men like R. Kelly thrive despite a documented history of sexually abusing Black girls and women across the country. In the video, Yasmine is at work when a[...]
I had a first reaction similar to many on the TIME person of the year piece....I was like, "Taylor? Why she front and center?" Okay, literally she was off center but figuratively she stay centered. Like whiteness. And as always, my mind went to those who are most vulnerable. I can't stand much about Taylor Swift (probably all that she stands for and symbolizes) but I think it's important that we not minimize the experience of any person who has been subjected to sexual assault/abuse/harassment.[...]
Black girl Sister Queen Black Friend Mammy Object of my desire Tell me who hurt you Unless it was me Or someone who looks like me In that case Then you need the facts And you should let the courts decide Because the courts never get it wrong Unless they get it wrong with me You’re being divisive We’re all... Black (White) Women Why do you insist on being both All the damn time? Not all... Black men White women[...]