He slid into my inbox with compliments I’m sure he expected me to be grateful for or at the very least to be polite about receiving. Said I was an example of how a Black woman should be. I explained that first of all, the notion that a Black woman should be any one way was exactly what my work pushes against. And third of all, he could keep his compliments since from experience I knew they came with the expectation that I’d also accept the critique that was sure to come the minute I did anyt[...]