Where is the Love? On Queen & Slim and Black Girls Deserving Better

Where is the Love? On Queen & Slim and Black Girls Deserving Better

Not long ago I described what I wanted in love. Not unlike Queen & Slim both did in the film. Here is what I said…
I want love I just call “Love” because no other name fits.
I want Love to reach for my hand while driving.
I want to lay my head in Love’s lap while Love watches something I don’t even want to see but will watch just to be close to Love.
I want Love to look at me like I’m the last piece of sweet potato pie at Thanksgiving.
Never in my imagining of Love do I want Love to die.
And I don’t want to die for Love.
Or die with Love.
That ain’t a Black girl’s fantasy.
That ain’t a Black girl’s love story.
All too often, that shit is a reality.
The true plot twist is a Black girl getting to live with Love. For Love. In love.
So when folks said Queen & Slim was a love story. I thought for once, love would live.
Instead I got a bootleg Set It Off ending that only confirmed what we already know…
The world hates Black folks, Blackness and Black love.
But I didn’t need to sit through 2 hours of trauma porn to know that.
And I didn’t need Black writers to give me what whiteness so gleefully gives.
I’m not sure where folks saw love.
All I saw was death.
A Black woman assaulted by her Black pimp.
A Black woman killed by her brother.
A Black cop killed by a Black child.
A Black child killed by cops.
2 Black lovers killed by more cops.
Where is the love?
I didn’t see it there.
I saw bonding through trauma.
And that ain’t the same thing.
Love is….
Hands held across the console.
Heads lain on laps.
Sweet potato pie glances in a room full of people.
And like so many other Black girls who are sick of struggle love and trauma love.
Tired of bonding through trauma.
I want a fucking fairytale ending.
After all the trauma.
Through all the struggle.
I deserve that.
Give me love that just rides.
No dying.

6 Comments
  • Makesha
    Posted at 07:33h, 01 December Reply

    Love this♥️♥️

  • Kasia McKenzie
    Posted at 15:18h, 01 December Reply

    ❤️❤️❤️ lovely

  • Kasia McKenzie
    Posted at 15:18h, 01 December Reply

    ❤️❤️❤️ lovely

  • Shalaseia
    Posted at 15:09h, 02 December Reply

    Can the Church say Amen, Amen. Yes, I’ve always hated those “ride or die” bullcrap. Remember in the book “Coldest Winter Ever” all the girls and Women lives were determined and destroyed because of their relentless love to do what it takes for their Man. So he knew she was down for whatever, ugh😶😶😶😶😶😐😐😐. And the Women and up in Jail, having babies, having babies in jail and dying. We must teach our girls that we must love ourselves first.

  • Sharon L. Jackson
    Posted at 16:06h, 02 December Reply

    This is so true!! I love this too!!! Sharon Jackson
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  • Sharon L. Jackson
    Posted at 16:06h, 02 December Reply

    This is so true!! I love this too!!!
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